Smile Endlessly

Inner Adversity

The idea of smiling into adversity intriques me. It actually lifts my spirits when I am embroiled in some inner angst and for just a moment I allow the corners of my mouth to lift.  Often this hint of a smile is followed by a shaking of my head back and forth in a no gesture, as my mouth lifts a bit more.  Very soon the negative emotional static begins to clear and my smile comes into full bloom. 

Growing up with a strong religious code of ethics is both a blessing and a curse. As a child I was schooled by the good Sisters, in the art of self examination (of conscience). Conscience becomes guilt very rapidly when young and tender children are asked to sort out concepts that most adults struggle with. This can mess up their ability to accept and love themselves for a lifetime. 

I have set myself on the path of self appreciation and it is a slippery slope. My over active critical mind is driven by the fear of being wrong, bad or just not good enough.  I have successfully progressed to the art of loving myself even when I get triggered by my history. Ten years ago I began to study the Emotional Freedom Tapping Techniques (EFT). My inner world is clearer and brighter because of this wonderful finger tapping tool.

EFT employs stimulating the body by tapping on the face and body in order to break up the conjestion of thoughts that are repeating and repeating randomly for no useful reason. While there is still much to learn about this letting go process, we are indeed winning the emotional freedom fight. To those who know how, I say keep tapping it works! To those who don't know, you can learn... everything EFT is found extensively on the internet, including my web site (see below). 

Now that's worth a smile, a sparkle, and brighter smile that lights up your face.  So what happened to that critical mind that beats me up when I should be sleeping? gone to sleep. Smile.

Kathleen Heatley 

LightHearted Emotional Freedom Techniques Facilitator

www.eft4you.com 

828-545-2756 

 

Smile into Adversity

We can all find uplift in the images of the smiling faces of those sturdy Vermont folks who have and are still weathering the destruction of Hurricane Irene. My family and I lived in Vermont for 14 years where we owned a vegan organic Bed and Breakfast. A portion of our hearts will always remain in that pristine land within the memories we carry inside of us.   

Vermont people are no strangers to the adversity of weather conditions that require sleepless nights behind snow plows on a regular basis. However when the water is not in it's frozen form of snow the challenge goes beyond what even they have skills to manage and yet they get to work with a kind of community spirit that warms the heart to witness. 

Rugged individualism gives way to cooperation as restaurants opened their kitchens to receive whatever food was being donated for cooking. They freely offered meals to those in their towns who gathered to share food and stories of encouragement.

They will work for many months to repair the damage to their homes and cities. And yet the incredible beauty of this northern state shines through in the videos seen on U tube, taken by citizens throughout the country side. Amazingly the smiles on the faces of folks, standing outside with their belongings strewn around them on porches and in yards drying in the sun, bring a strong sense of the spirit of gratitude that they are still alive and determined to return to the life they treasure.  

Nature is calling us all to a higher ground where appreciation and gratitude become our dominate thought patterns as we focus our minds toward emotional upliftment. By cultivating the habit of Smiling Endlessly in gratitude we can stabilize our lives in times of adversity and challenge. 

Kathleen Heatley

Facilitator of LightHearted Emotional Freedom Techniques

www.eft4you.com

 

 

 

Ride like the wind!

Riding my bike leaves me smiling. Asheville, NC is mostly up and down hill riding and when I'm on a downhill I really take in the beauty of the lush green trees covered with vines. I'm not much good at pedaling uphill however, so I can be seen pushing my bike up so I can ride back down. Riding makes me feel like a kid again and not being a kid I am thankful that I can still ride with joy. At first I was weak kneed and shaky but now after several weeks, I have gained some leg strength and improved my balance considerably. I use a bike mirror to stay aware of cars behind me and play it safe when I need to, by stopping on the side of the road for a few moments until the road clears. It's all worth the effort because of the big smile on my face and the LightHeartedness that I feel.

LighHearted EFT with Kathleen Heatley

www.eft4you.com

 

 

Helping Children Smile

As parents we can forget to pay attention to the emotional difficulties that our children face everyday at school. We might find ourselves focusing more on the academics and less on the emotional lessons that they are struggling with. They are in the intense emotional world of competition and finding their place socially. Perhaps as adults we have forgotten how great a challenge this can be.

The Emotional Freedom Tapping Techniques are simple and easy for children to learn and result in better coping skills and lowered emotional stress. I would like to suggest a book called "The Wizards Wish" or How He Made the Yuckies Go Away- A story about the Magic in You, written by Brad Yates. 

In the hands of children and parents this simple primer about managing emotions can result in calmer households and better grades for children of all ages. 

Eleanore Duyndam, president of Golden Gift Media (and mother of two) raves, "Pure magic! This Book...offers a simple way to feel better now."

Mary Sise, author of The Energy of Belief says, "Beautifully written and illustrated, every child should have access to this book. I absolutely loved it!"

Remember, calmer and more cooperative children, could be the reward of the small investment of getting this book for yourself and your children.  

Kathleen Heatley EFT-Cert1

www.eft4you.com

828-545-2756

kathy0121@msn.com

 

 

Learning to Smile

As a sensitive child, I stressed easily and wouldn't smile on cue. Adults who noticed the serious looks on my little face often said "Smile Kathy." That of course had the opposite affect and caused me to avoid them the next time they came to the house for a visit.  As a child I wasn't what I would call happy due to my overly sensitive nature. Born the fifth of five with siblings close in age, I learned to duck and avoid the household chaos of a large family. The bedroom I shared with my older sister was my refuge where I read books and studied for fun.  

Today I smile easily and happily unless I am singled out for a portrait. Put me in a group and my smile is big and genuine. Let me say that a loner I am not. This has served me over the years of my life because I have learned to cultivate friendships easily and to value them deeply.

Now as a woman in those "golden years" I actively practice the art of laughter on a daily basis. Those who know me are aware that this is my focus. As a facilitator of "LightHearted Emotional Freedom Tapping" I share my ideas with people who also desire a lighthearted outlook on life.

The EFT body tapping methods clear the emotional burdens that result from difficult past experiences. As the stored energetic charges dissolve, we are naturally unburdened and more lighthearted causing us to smile endlessly. 

Stay tuned for more on the Art of LightHeated Living.

Kathy Heatley 

www.eft4you.com

kathy0121@msn.com

828-545-2756

 

 

 

 

Smile deeply and often

Tomorrow my husband and I will have the pleasure of witnessing what an evening at the Biltmore Estate was like when the Vanderbilt family resided there. The house will be lighted as it once was with candles and there will be ballroom dancers and choral groups throughout for our entertainment.  I'm excited to take this step back in history and create some special holiday memories.

Since moving to Asheville, NC two years ago we have visited the Biltmore Estate on more than one occasion. We often take our grandson who refers to the estate as the Big House. He is five and dances through the halls and rooms with the wonder and anticipation that children exude. His favorite garden is the one with floating flowers and big fish swimming about.  

George Vanderbilt had a dream and that dream is now available to all of us who would like to imagine what it was like to live in the largest family owned mansion in the country. It's nice to be a small part of the legacy left behind. We live in special times when the world of technology brings us beauty and cheer from around the world. Perhaps you have seen the Utube "Christmas Food Court Flash Mob, Hallelujah Chorus performance" that took place on November 13, 2010. It's quite magnificent and if you do nothing more than view this video to set the tone for the season, I suggest that you watch it as many times as it takes to put a big smile on your face. 

More to come on the Christmas at the Biltmore Estate, where history is re-enacted for the pleasure of all who want to glimse this piece of history. I can hardly wait. I know it's going to make me smile endlessly.

Visit with me on www.eft4you.com or call me at 828-254-6837

And remember to Smile Endlessly,

  Kathleen Heatley

Smile more with EFT

The Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) are a simple tool with the potential for enormous benefits. More and more people are discovering EFT's power and are using EFT to feel better. There are few who would deny that there is reason for higher levels of stress today than in our most recent past.

Yet some try EFT for an issue, get results, and don't continue to use it for other issues. In spite of the fact that it takes less than a minute to apply EFT to a problem, not enough actually embrace it's use whole heartedly.  Mediation is another simple tool and though many have tried it and experienced profound results, few actually practice on a regular basis.  Rhythmic Breath work is also simple, yet again few take the art of conscious breathing up as a daily practice.

I want to state that while EFT is easy in it's application, those with the highest motivation, are most likely to persist in it's use. For instance, War Veterans are applying EFT successfully and getting free from the debilitating effects of Post Traumatic Stress Disorders using only these tapping techniques. See www.eftforvets.com  to learn about the video that tells the story titled, Operation: Emotional Freedom, The Answer.

Do we learn to accept these lives full of stress, like the frog who stays in the slowly heating water until death when it could easily jump out and get free? do we too often stay with that which is emotionally familiar? are we ever emotionally free? are we interested in emotional freedom? do we realize when we are not emotionally free?  is emotional freedom the big answer to stress? can we chose emotional freedom?   I think we can and while EFT is not the only answer,  it is An Answer.

Use Emotional Freedom Techniques and jump out of your hot water.

Visit with me on www.eft4you.com or call me at 828-254-6837

And remember to Smile Endlessly,

  Kathleen Heatley

  

Over the Rainbow

We are living in a time when there is great focus on creating our ultimate dreams. We are told that if we place our attention upon what we desire and cease to talk about or grumble about what it is that we don’t want, all will be ours. Eventually.

Hmmmm. How long is eventually? Well that depends upon our ability to retain our focus in a one pointed manner. If we go back and forth we confuse the Universal Mind and delay getting what we want so badly.

Did you ever try not to think about what you don’t want?   Not so easy to avoid those concerns is it? It has also been said that the negative is much less powerful than the positive, so we are not to be so concerned about how much of it slips in and dominates our thoughts. We are to keep up the effort of positive belief none the less, as much as we possibly can. To this I wholeheartedly agree.

My mother used to say this, “It all works out in the end you just have to live long enough.” At first blush that may seem like a negative thought but it is still believing in the outcome you are focusing on. And it encourages continued zest for life. My siblings and I carry this idea in our belief systems and it serves us well because all we have to do is keep living and all will be well. Not such a bad focus.

I suppose it is a belief that could use a bit of tweaking but a long held belief isn’t so easily transformed. But let’s take a look at a minor adjustment for fun. How about “It all works out before you die.” Or “It all has to work out because you are still alive.”  in that regard I want to state that I have always gotten what I have wanted… eventually. And that is what I expect. Eventually. And I would like you to know that five years ago I decided that I wanted a change in lifestyle and I wanted a warmer climate than Vermont where I have lived for the last 14 years or Michigan where I was born and grew up.

Now a mere 5 years later my family and I are on our way to Asheville, NC with an arrival date of August 22, 2008. If you are reading this after August 22^nd you can reach me by calling 828.254.6837

I am interested in hearing about the repetitive thoughts or sayings that have shaped your life. These thoughts have power and often exist beneath the level of everyday awareness. We think them unconsciously. They are either serving you and your creations or they are holding you back. You can email me

kathy0121@msn.com for more information on this subject or post a comment to this blog.

In the meantime I’m on my way over the Rainbow Where Blue Birds Fly. And that would be the Blue Bird of Happiness where I expect to Smile Endlessly.

Bless you all,

Kathy

Freedom To Discern

We live in the land of the Free, Right?  Perhaps not so much.  In many ways we are loosing our financial freedom and our inner peace of mind. Our resources drained away by large oil companies and funding wars while countless Americans cannot keep up with the demands of the lifestyles they consider vital to their wellbeing.

I would like to focus on the right to discern what is true for each one of us and raise awareness about our increasing loss of mental freedom. Hypnosis is a tool for freeing the mind of troubling thoughts that lead to disturbing feelings. It can be used successfully for changing negative habits and for creating overall well-being. Certified Hypnotists are trained to assist their clients who desire to shed some body fat or to cease destructive habits like smoking. Hypnosis is not mind control but it is accessing the state of mind when high levels of suggestibility can occur. It is a safe and effective method for making changes that are desired when the consulting hypnotist is skilled and morally competent.

Having said that I would like to suggest that less reputable hypnosis or high levels of suggestibility abound in our age of technological advancement. These tools are called advertisements, movies, television programs, music lyrics, computer images and information that circulate constantly, to name but a few ways that we are consistently and deeply hypnotized into believing all manner of questionable ideas and information that may or may not be true for us. Even this post is subject to this reality. So I suggest that you accept only that which is true for you and ignore that which is outside of your acceptable range of beliefs. However if you do choose to accept what I am putting out there for your consideration please process it through your own wise mind and put it to the test of your own experience.

I believe that hypnosis occurs without our even noticing. I would like you to consider the effectiveness of Billboards, which are designed to catch the sight of every passerby. One cannot move through roads without observing the boards along the highway. Billboard advertising is advertising done on a great scale which is larger than any other source. It aims at attracting a large group of people moving on the streets. Billboards create a different impression on the minds of the people who rapidly take in their message. Big companies cannot get famous without advertising on these boards. In that one jiffy glance, the viewer is informed of the message the company wants to give. Billboards have proved to be one of the most successful ways of presenting the ads for any product. They have generated a great amount of income for the companies who use them.

When is the last time you recall actually consciously reading a billboard? Our minds have the capacity to load images and ideas faster than high speed Internet. And we can become motivated to respond to these messages due to a deep inner belief that we will benefit when there is no real evidence to support such an action. This is one of the more widely used methods used for turning Americans into the expert consumers that we have become to our detriment. It is subliminal and passive and it gets in to the unconscious mind without our even noticing that it has occurred. Now I ask you to recall even one billboard that you have read consciously in recent times. Yet they are still out there everywhere and would not be if they did not have a profound effect upon the market place and our minds.

Since I live in the one state to my knowledge that allows no billboards anywhere, it is disturbing to my mind when I travel out of the state and get a cosmic blast from one after another of these demanding message boards. When I re-enter the state there is always a surprising relief when the boards cease to exist along my path on my way home. Trees are so much more soothing to the mind.

I suggest that you consider raising your awareness about the hypnotic suggestions that abound in the world around you. Since they are everywhere and coming at you from all sides, you cannot avoid them and live a modern lifestyle, but you can develop an effective filter by using the power of your own mind to discern through questioning and by setting your intention to do so.

To experience positive hypnosis that is both empowering and helpful visit www.KathyHeatley.com  to check out the Relaxation and Resources pages.

Stay Empowered and Be Well,

Kathy       E-mail me.

Procrastination or Time to Chill

The subject of procrastination is currently getting a lot of attention. It is also, in my humble opinion being wrongly self diagnosed in many cases. As leading edge creators attempting to manifest through the great Universal Law of Attraction our abundance and ideal lives, we can push ourselves over the edge and into a freefall of distress, overwork, and burnout. This would be a misuse of the ideas of attraction and manifesting our hearts desires.

It's a tough call to really know if there is a energy block from some earlier event in life that holds us back by setting up an inner fear or if we are just pushing too hard and starting to shut down. Since both conditions can feel similar we cannot always use our emotional guidance system to tell us what will help us feel better.

In this case it is my suggestion that you apply the Emotional Freedom Techniques to help you gain clarity about your situation. You can go to www.emofree.com and click on the Newcomers tab to learn more or you can of course call me 828-254-6837  or visit www.kathyheatley.com and I will be happy to help you learn how to use this highly effective self help tool.

Having said that let me get back to procrastination and the attention it is getting as we forge forward toward abundance. I believe that it is the job of our country to expand the limits of abundance into the future. Currently we are experiencing setback in the flow of financial freedom. I won't go into that here since most people get it and feel it already.

Sometimes we just need to wait for the Universe to bring things into alignment for us before we can move forward, and no amount of pushing is going to speed that process and in fact the pushing will likely impede our efforts. Patience really is a useful virtue. So what is it that holds you back? procrastination? or lack of patience? it gets complicated.

Again EFT is an answer because this simple energy tool of tapping with the fingertips on energy meridian comfort points brings clarity to the mind and then it is possible to really know how to proceed. Taking action or exercising patience becomes a clearer path.

Your unconscious mind knows all the right answers since it is connected to the collective unconscious or the great mind of God. EFT is an effective tool for accessing the deep inner mind for guidance and it is unfailing when you can trust yourself to know what you know. No other system is as accurate as your mind. No one else can tell you what is best for you. That is your job. Your job to learn to know yourself. And if you don't know where to begin consider EFT because it's rapid and easy to learn and can be applied to anything you can think of, and some things you might never imagine.

Either way you go toward healing procrastination or healing your lack of patience by releasing fear consider easing up on yourself. Take the practical step of learning more about EFT (inexpensive if money is an issue) and asking for Universal Divine Guidance toward your best method for improving your life and applying the Spiritual Laws of Abundance while cultivating peace of mind. Smell all those roses that you can, pet your cat, love your children and appreciate looking upward toward a clear blue sky with fluffy white clouds. When the eyes are looking up it is not possible to feel down since you are processing information from a very different part of your brain that can only serve you and uplift you.

Be Well, it's easier than you might think,

Kathy  E-mail me

Feel Good Right Now

Your thoughts can make you smile and your thoughts can cause you to frown and you always have a choice about what you think, no matter what you think when you read that sentence. Whereby most of us believe that on some level we can choose how we look at a situation, we might find that difficult to apply, when a stress situation starts taking over.  For instance when we are caught in a traffic jam on the freeway and the next exit of escape is ten miles up the road and we are inching along slower than we could leisurely walk.

It's wise to have a pre practiced mental escape plan for such aggravating situations. Just like we have to practice a fire escape plan in order to avoiding rushing out the front door in a fire emergency and getting burned. The mind needs to be prepared through practice. One person that I know carried a bottle of bubbles in her glove compartment, as insurance for aggravating Chicago traffic jams. She would simply open her window and blow bubbles for others to enjoy.  She began to enjoy those precious opportunities to be the entertainment amidst the freeway traffic jams. Children would point to the bubbles and laugh and adults would lighten up at least for a few moments.

The mental condition called hypnosis is defined by the state of hightened suggestibility or the ability to accept new information. Several conditions open the mind for hypnotic suggestion. One state is relaxation and another is pain. When we are in physical or emotional pain we are much more receptive to new methods of getting beyond the pain. Aggravation is an emotionally painful event and can be a time of hightened suggestibility. Hence the bubbles of distraction carried the ability to change a mind state because the hypnotic trance of aggravation was likely present.

So the next time you find yourself in a traffic jam consider taking out that bottle of bubbles and entertain your mind. You might just find that a life changing hypnotic event has taken place that will serve you well in other times of aggravation, for you will have opened up to a new thought and a positive solution for enduring what you cannot change anyway.

The mind is a precious gift and must not be squandered on negative thoughts. Each morning set your intention to have a productive happy day. Chances are you will find yourself smiling endlessly.

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